Am I Trans? - Finding your Trans Identity

So many people tend to ask trans women how they found out they were trans. This experience is unique for each person.

So, if you are wondering about your own identity, there is no one way to figure it out. This article looks at this question a little more closely.    

However, please note that this is not biological advice or mental health advice. The writer is not a licensed therapist.

If you are currently questioning your identity, it is worth talking to a licensed therapist.


As a trans person, gender dysphoria is inevitable. Or at the very least, feeling disconnected from your birth sex is a common experience.

First thing to understand is that even if you identity as a transgender person, you need necessarily transition because there are so many grey areas.

But how do you know if you are a trans person? Again, every person’s journey and experience are unique, so there is no one definite way.

However, it does take a lot of introspection and self-discovery.     


Many trans people feel like they are different from others from the get-go. They feel like they don’t fit in with either gender.

You may find yourself interested in what is perceived to be more “feminine” things if you were biologically assigned the gender “male” at birth.

For instance, you may be interested in dolls, makeup, and other feminine toys.

Note that this can be slightly overwhelming at a young age, particularly if your parents weren’t open to behavior that is not gender normative.

Eventually, you may realize that you are in the wrong body. But before that, it is common to hide some of this non-gender normative behavior from people who you think might disapprove.

Some even give themselves secret feminine names to feel connected to their actual identity.

You may not find yourself interested in the activities everyone else from your assigned gender are partaking in.

If you are a trans woman, maybe you never found sports or video games interesting.   


A lot of times, trans people start to feel more comfortable once they meet more people from the LGBTQ+ community.

You may even find yourself actively rejecting attributes and traits assigned with your birth gender.

A lot of trans women reported that when they began to develop certain masculine traits, it made them anxious and uncomfortable.

It is not until puberty that many people slowly begin to get in touch with their identity.   


Another common feeling among trans people pre-op is the constant feeling of discomfort when it comes to their genitals.

It may feel strange or alien each time you look down. Throughout your life, as you introspect, you are essentially on your way towards transitioning if you are a trans woman.   

As stated above, gender dysphoria is a common experience for trans people.  If you have experienced or felt anything along these lines and are unsure of your identity, we highly recommend talking to a licensed therapist with expertise in trans and gender issues.

Experimentation is also key if you are unsure about your identity.

You can learn more, research about various gender and sexual identities, and so on to understand yourself better.

Regardless of how ambiguous you feel, remember that there is no one way to determine your identity.

You are the best judge of yourself and we hope you find yourself through self-discovery.  We hope this helped. Good luck!!


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