A Transgender Guide - What you Should Know
After a trans person comes to terms with their gender identity, the next step is often transitioning for many.
However, transitioning entails a myriad of procedures and processes and initially, it might seem like a huge labyrinth composed merely of culs-de-sac.
It can be confusing, overwhelming, and challenging to take this journey towards the unknown.
The first thing to remember when you are transitioning is that you need not wait to come out until the journey is complete.
A work in progress is a good enough place to start. It may seem scary to go live in a world freely when you feel “unfinished.” However, transitioning, to many, is a lifelong process.
At this point, it is important to understand that transitioning is an extremely external process.
You are trying to match your outsides with what is already consistent on the inside. You are inherently a woman, and you are merely trying to make sure that your physical attributes demonstrate that.
Since you were born into a male body, it can be an extensive process. Many trans women spend several years transitioning and they are still not satisfied with where they are.
The reason is that, when transitioning, it is natural to plateau. It is a long journey and it is completely natural to take breaks in between. Many trans women are not entirely content with their voices, but they shelf it to deal with at a later time.
Therefore, it is very likely that your transition will not be “finished” for many years. The end of the transition period is when your attributes, characteristics, and behaviors are crystallized.
However, as a trans woman, you would notice that your desires and goals keep changing with time as you grow. Towards the end, it is natural to feel stagnant, like you are not moving forwards anymore.
However, this is a natural lull before you feel complete and authentic. During this period, you are essentially working on the final touches to polish what was abandoned in between or start what you have neglected all this time.
This could be your voice or perfecting the eyes shadow or walking in high heels.
Remember that in the later stages, when you have only a couple of things left to do, your priorities may change to include non-trans goals, which is a positive thing.
It means your journey towards transitioning is almost complete. However, to reach that point, it is important to remember that it takes a substantial amount of effort and consistency.
There are many points in your transitioning journey where you might feel tired. You must take breaks when you are exhausted, or you may feel burnt out eventually.
Don’t worry about stagnating, because you have undertaken a path and you will keep going after you take a short break, because you are on a quest to become who you already are on the inside.
You are aware of the benefits awaiting you on the other side and you will work towards them.
Sometimes, you may feel like it is not worth it but you will eventually walk down this path again.
The journey may be tedious and exhausting, and you may get lost sometimes, but you will gradually find yourself.
Remember that even when you are in the plateau, you are still transitioning and moving towards your true authentic self subconsciously. We hope you enjoyed this article. Good luck!!
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